Changeling Aspects
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"Conformity is the jailer of
freedom and the enemy of growth."
( John F. Kennedy - Address to the UN
General Assembly-(25 September 1961.) -http://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/John_F._Kennedy
Pressure
INTERNAL
Feeling of ‘wrongness’ from an early age.
Realising you are born into the wrong body. Our euphemism.
I am a girl, why aren’t I one. The feeling that your body is repugnant, as it is not what your brain tells you it should be.
Praying and dreaming that you wake corrected.
Extreme need to be your real-self, in this case> female, but not allowed to show this.
Suppression and denial in order to conform.
This is learnt the hard way very early, so as not to be abused mentally, physically or sexually.
Cross dress as much as possible to relieve the pressure. Easier for the guys, as girls already have a vast choice of dress.
Eventual outing of oneself.
Frustration at not being able to portray and live as your true self.
This leads to depression, self harm or suicide. High level of suicide in pre-ops.
Signs not recognised by doctors. Many do not want to know about us.
Parents usually told “This is a phase and it will pass” wrong! It went wrong in the womb and cannot be cured/corrected other than by having mind/gender and body/sex brought together as they should be. That means Surgery, Drugs and Hormones.
Hormones for life and the damage of being on these for 30/40/50 years is not known.
Psychiatrists, Endocrinologists, Surgeons, Costs, Possible loss of family, friends, home and job.
EXTERNAL
Conform; the pressures are immense from parents, siblings, friends, doctors and work.
Some have been sectioned, given electric shock treatment, put in a padded cell and straight jacketed due to family or doctor’s fear of self-harm.
The most critical is trying to remove the offending parts without anaesthetic. This usually leads to death if not caught early.
Misdiagnoses and lack of understanding by the medical profession, who (due to medically published ‘conjecture’ over the previous decades) try to treat the symptoms and not the cause. Lack of understanding by lay people too, especially parents. Some of this is due to being worried at what others will think!
Rejected out of hand by many organisations, again due to lack of understanding.
Danger of being abused, not just mentally and physically, but sexually. This can and does include, rape, beatings and murder.
If sent to a male prison on incarceration and you are pre-op, and then all of the above can and does happen.
Until recently, we had no rights and were really not recognised as a legal part of society.
We now have the right to change our birth certificate after the operation and have cover under the Anti Discrimination laws. This also covers Vilification.
CONCLUSION
The drive to become your true self is so intense that we are willing to lose all, in order to gain that feeling of ‘correctness’. The driving force is from the brain/gender, and as this cannot be corrected, we have to undergo surgery to achieve our true selves.
This is definitely a condition that you would not wish on your worst enemy, or, for that matter, another transsexual!
Kathy Anne Noble
First Published - Sat - 09/09/2006
